Unbinding the Soul: Herbal Healing for Soul Ties and Emotional Liberation

Bridging plant medicine, hormones, and spirit to release what no longer serves.

Soul ties are profound emotional, physical, mental, or spiritual connections between two people—whether romantic, platonic, or familial—that create lasting energetic bonds. These ties can uplift and support growth, or they can entangle the heart, mind, and soul. They often form through emotional vulnerability, physical intimacy, shared experiences, spiritual rituals, or deep energetic resonance.

How Soul Ties Develop

Soul ties are formed through a combination of physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual experiences that forge deep energetic bonds. These connections often arise in the following ways:

·       Physical or sexual intimacy – Close physical or sexual encounters create powerful energetic links that can linger long after the interaction.

·  Emotional vulnerability – Sharing deep feelings, personal stories, or trauma fosters intense emotional bonds and energetic entanglements.

·       Mental alignment – Strong intellectual connections, shared values, or stimulating conversations can spark mental and energetic ties.

·       Spiritual unity – Shared spiritual practices, beliefs, rituals, or worship experiences deepen the soul-level connection.

·       Covenantal or life-altering experiences – Commitments like marriage, childbirth, or enduring a crisis together can energetically bind individuals beyond the physical realm.

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Soul Ties

Soul ties can either nourish your spirit or drain your energy, depending on the quality of the connection.

Healthy soul ties are rooted in mutual respect, trust, and personal freedom. They foster emotional growth, empowerment, and independence. These connections are supportive, balanced, and encourage each person to evolve into their highest self. A healthy soul tie creates connection without control, attachment without entrapment, and intimacy without codependency.

For Women:

·       They feel seen, emotionally safe, and free

to express vulnerability.

·       They remain rooted in self-worth and identity, even

in closeness.

·       This tie inspires growth, softening, and

spiritual creativity.

For Men:

·       They feel emotionally affirmed and not emasculated.

·       Their protective, providing nature feels honored

without being manipulated.

·       They remain autonomous while choosing to show

up in partnership.

Unhealthy soul ties, on the other hand, are often marked by emotional dependency, identity loss, manipulation, or isolation. They can trap you in cycles of drama, control, and emotional instability. Signs of a toxic soul tie may include obsessive thoughts, neglect of self-care, feelings of powerlessness, or repeated patterns of abuse and emotional confusion.

When left unresolved, these negative ties can stunt personal development and keep you emotionally or spiritually stuck, preventing you from fully accessing your inner power and potential. An unhealthy soul tie distorts love into attachment, loyalty into sacrifice, and connection into addiction.

“What part of myself did I give away in this connection?"

Unhealthy Soul Ties: From Emotional Bondage to Energetic Drain

 From a Female Perspective

·       A woman may lose her sense of self, overly attach her value to how the other perceives or treats her.

·       She might feel anxious, clingy, or obsessive, replaying conversations or trying to “fix” the other person.

·       Suppressed intuition, heightened emotional reactivity, or self-neglect may occur.

·       Energetically, she may absorb his unresolved emotions, becoming emotionally heavy or fatigued.

 From a Male Perspective

·       A man may feel emotionally dependent yet resistant, stuck between wanting space and craving validation.

·       He may repress emotions, acting out through anger, withdrawal, or controlling behaviors.

·       Some feel drained or creatively blocked after intimacy, especially if there's energetic

incompatibility.

·       He may also project unhealed maternal or paternal wounds onto the partner,

unconsciously recreating trauma cycles.

How Soul Ties Can Harm Emotional Growth

Unhealthy soul ties can deeply disrupt your emotional development and overall well-being. Instead of supporting your evolution, they can anchor you to emotional patterns that no longer serve you.

•        Emotional stagnation – You may feel energetically drained and unable to move forward in life, caught in repetitive cycles of emotional pain.

•        Erosion of self-esteem – Toxic ties often lead to codependency and loss of identity, weakening your sense of self-worth.

•        Impaired decision-making – Your choices may begin to revolve around the other person’s emotions or needs, clouding your inner guidance.

•        Emotional exhaustion – The constant highs and lows, obsessive thoughts, and underlying anxiety can wear down your mental and emotional resilience

• Hormonal & Energetic Consequences- Your emotional and spiritual bodies are entangled in unresolved soul ties—especially those rooted in guilt, shame, fear, or obsession—which places chronic stress on your nervous system and, ultimately, your hormonal health.

What Happens Energetically:

·       Persistent emotional stress activates the sympathetic nervous system (“fight or flight”)

·       This triggers the HPA axis (hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal), leading to repeated cortisol surges

·       Over time, this dysregulation results in hormonal imbalances, weakened immunity, and emotional instability

In essence, the body bears the burden of spiritual and emotional bondage—often manifesting as fatigue, anxiety, low libido, reproductive imbalances, or chronic mood swings. Releasing these ties is not only a spiritual necessity, but a physical and emotional one as well.

Hormonal Imbalances & Physical Manifestations of Unhealthy Soul Ties

Unhealthy soul ties don’t just impact the heart—they infiltrate the entire body. When emotional stress becomes chronic and unprocessed, it disrupts the endocrine system, disturbs hormonal balance, and creates physical disharmony. The body becomes a mirror for the spirit’s entanglements.

In Women: Hormonal Impact & Pathologies

Chronic emotional stress often leads to estrogen dominance, which can manifest as:

·       Fibroids

·       Ovarian cysts

·       Irregular or painful menstrual cycles

·       Breast tenderness

Elevated cortisol levels can suppress progesterone, resulting in:

·       Mood swings

·       Insomnia

·       Fertility challenges

Prolonged emotional depletion may also disrupt thyroid function, leading to:

·       Fatigue

·       Weight gain

·       Hair thinning

Energetic tension held in the womb space can create:

·       Pelvic congestion

·       Endometriosis flares

·       Chronic vaginal infections

·       Libido imbalances

The womb is a vessel of memory. Unprocessed emotional ties often root themselves in the womb, showing up as reproductive imbalances or chronic gynecological issues.

 In Men: Hormonal Impact & Pathologies

For men, emotional stress often suppresses testosterone, leading to:

·       Low libido

·       Mood instability

·       Fatigue

·       Loss of drive or vitality

Emotional suppression and unresolved grief may contribute to:

·       Prostate inflammation

·       Erectile dysfunction (especially psychogenic ED)

·       Adrenal fatigue

·       Digestive disturbances (the gut is a storehouse of emotional energy)

Unexpressed anger, guilt, or shame may manifest as:

·       Hypertension

·       Ulcers

·       Chest tightness or cardiovascular tension

When a man experiences the severing of a deep soul tie—especially with unresolved guilt or loss—he may emotionally dissociate from his heart space. This can lead to avoidance behaviors like workaholism, overachievement, or compulsive sexual activity as a way to numb the pain.

Strategies for Severing Unhealthy Soul Ties

Severing soul ties requires more than time and distance—it calls for intentional strategies that address the emotional, energetic, and physical imprints left behind. Through ritual, herbal allies, and somatic release, we reclaim our power and restore harmony to the spirit and body.

Here are a few practical strategies for severing what no longer serves you :

1.     Awareness & acknowledgment- Recognize the unhealthy tie—reflect on whether the bond drains you or holds you back 

2.     Set clear boundaries & distance- Reduce or cut contact. Mute/unfollow on social media. Establish emotional and sometimes physical separation 

3.     Emotional release & forgiveness- Journal about your emotions, express gratitude for lessons, forgive yourself, and the other person.

4.     Energy healing & self-care-  Use practices like yoga, Reiki, meditation, therapy to balance energy and heal emotional wounds 

5.     Spiritual or ritual closure- In religious contexts: confession, renunciation, prayers to sever ties. In a secular sense: write a letter (not to send), symbolic rituals (e.g., candle extinguishing), connect with a spiritualist to perform rituals to sever soul ties.

6.     Rebuild identity and support networks- Reclaim hobbies, spend time with uplifting people, and possibly seek therapy or coaching 

Herbs to Break Unhealthy Soul Ties

Herbal actions that support this work often target:

·       Nervous system repair (to soothe the emotional body)

·       Energetic cleansing (to remove lingering spiritual impressions)

·       Womb & heart healing (to clear stored trauma and reclaim personal power)

·       Psychic boundaries (to restore spiritual sovereignty)

 1. Nervine & Heart-Centered Herbs

Purpose: Calm emotional turmoil, release grief, and soften attachment

Physical Action: Sedative, anxiolytic, trophorestorative

Spiritual Action: Unbinds cords of grief, over-attachment, and emotional confusion

·       Lemon balm (Melissa officinalis): Uplifts the spirit, calms anxiety, and gently breaks emotional looping

·       Hawthorn (Crataegus spp.): Mends heartbreak, strengthens the heart chakra, and acts as a boundary builder around the emotional body

·       Rose (Rosa spp.): Soothes sadness, invites self-love, and spiritually protects while opening the heart

·       Blue vervain (Verbena hastata): Releases control patterns, clears obsessive thoughts, softens type-A tendencies often reinforced in toxic ties

🌹 Ritual use: Drink as tea while journaling or in moonlit baths. Add rose or hawthorn petals to spiritual cleanses or altars.

 2. Bitters & Cleansing Herbs (Cut the Cord)

Purpose: Detoxify what no longer serves—emotionally and energetically

Physical Action: Digestive stimulant, liver detox, lymph mover

Spiritual Action: Removes energetic residue, promotes release, helps you "digest" and let go

·       Dandelion root (Taraxacum officinale): Clears bitterness and resentment stored in the liver

·       Burdock root (Arctium lappa): Grounds scattered emotional energy, clears spiritual stagnation

·       Black walnut hull (Juglans nigra): Excellent for psychic cutting of unhealthy attachments and auric invaders

·       Mugwort (Artemisia vulgaris): Enhances dreamwork, reveals soul contracts, and aids in releasing spiritual clutter

✨ Ritual use: Burn dried mugwort for smudging during release rituals. Drink dandelion root decoctions while fasting from communication with the soul tie.

 3. Womb & Root Clearing Herbs

Purpose: Clear stored memory and trauma from the pelvic bowl or sacral space

Physical Action: Emmenagogue, uterine tonic, lymphatic

Spiritual Action: Helps release spiritual and sexual imprints from the womb

·       Yarrow (Achillea millefolium): Seals energy leaks, protects after cord-cutting, and strengthens auric field

·       Motherwort (Leonurus cardiaca): Unbinds emotional tension held in the womb, especially for women who’ve felt abandoned or used

·       Dong quai (Angelica sinensis): Restores balance to menstrual cycles affected by emotional stress

·       Calendula (Calendula officinalis): Gently clears and heals internal tissue—emotional and physical

✨ Yoni Steam: A blend of yarrow, rose, calendula, and mugwort can be used as a yoni steam to spiritually and physically release energetic residue from unhealthy ties.

 4. Spirit-Breakers & Boundary Protectors

Purpose: Cut cords, reinforce spiritual protection, and reestablish inner sovereignty

Physical Action: Antimicrobial, adaptogenic, psychic purifier

Spiritual Action: Breaks contracts, seals spiritual breaches, enhances auric defense

·       Rue (Ruta graveolens): Traditional herb for breaking hexes, unbinding spiritual attachments

·       Angelica root (Angelica archangelica): Protects the aura, calls in angelic or ancestral assistance

·       Holy basil (Tulsi): Clears negative energy, enhances spiritual clarity, supports emotional detox

·       Agrimony (Agrimonia eupatoria): Used in folk medicine to "return the cross," it releases attachments you’ve unknowingly taken on

🔮 Ritual: Use Rue, Angelica, and Tulsi in a spiritual bath or floor wash. Burn with charcoal during cord-cutting or full moon rituals.

Discernment: How to Know the Soul Tie Is Severed

As the herbs and rituals begin to do their sacred work—cleansing the energy body, soothing the nervous system, and restoring inner balance—clarity naturally begins to emerge. But how do you truly know the soul tie has been released?

You’ll know a soul tie has been truly severed when emotional calm replaces chaos, and you feel energetically clear and neutral in their presence—or even in their absence. Obsessive or compulsive thoughts dissolve, and you no longer feel the urge to check on them, revisit memories, or track their life. There’s a sense of behavioral freedom and physical ease—your body no longer holds tension or anxiety associated with them. Spiritually, the karmic pull fades, and you no longer feel entangled in their energy. True freedom is when you can bless the connection for what it was, without longing, regret, or desire to return.

Final Reflection

Unhealthy soul ties do more than break the heart—they reverberate through the hormones, glands, reproductive system, and daily behaviors, silently shaping how we move through the world. Healing from these ties is not just about separation, but deep reclamation of the self.

True healing calls for:

·       Energetic reclamation

·       Hormonal rebalancing

·       Emotional liberation

·       Soul sovereignty

Your body carries your story. Releasing unhealthy soul ties allows the spirit to speak its truth and the body to finally exhale. Herbal allies become sacred companions in this process—acting as spiritual midwives who help us release, grieve, cleanse, and ultimately, call our power back home.

"I release all cords, contracts, and attachments that no longer serve my highest good. I call all of my energy back to me, whole, healed, and sovereign. I am free." Mystic Momma